When we think of mothers, we might imagine June Cleaver, the perfect 1950s housewife, dressed to the nines in her perfectly ordered kitchen; Joan Crawford, with cold cream smeared all over her face, screaming, “No more wire hangers, ever!” or Marge Simpson with her bouffant hairstyle, eternal patience and crazy sisters. We all laugh at the characterizations of mothers, but truthfully, being a mother is a lot of work.We all have those days when we feel like we are the mother of the year: your child plays nicely with others and you get complimented on his/her behavior and manners at a restaurant. Unfortunately, we also have the days when we cringe inside and shake our heads. You realize halfway through chastising your three-year-old that he was actually helping the girl who fell down and did not, in fact, push her, or when your two-year-old yells out, “Mommy, I pooped my pants!” at a funeral. That’s not even the worst of it. I sometimes surprise myself when I realize the words coming out of my mouth are not even my own, but long forgotten pearls of wisdom told to me by my own mother years ago. I find myself saying things I never thought I would, like “remember, fiber is your friend,” which I didn’t understand at the time, but now I know that they are words to live by.
Last year on Mother’s Day, my aunt Marilyn asked me, “So, what do you think of motherhood”? I answered, “All is forgiven!” She laughed, “Ah, you get it now!”
Being a mother is hard, sometimes we make it look easy, other times, not so much. But I assure you that even when we are at our worst, we love our children and we really are trying our best. I can’t tell you how much I miss my own mother, and wish I could tell her how she was right about so many things. I just needed perspective. So be nice to your mother, other people’s mothers, and new mothers, and have a very happy Mother’s Day!
Typically, mothers are taken out for a meal on Mother’s Day and many of our local restaurants have brunch and dinner specials for you to wine and dine your mom. However, there is another option. St. Luke’s Church is celebrating Mother’s Day in an altruistic style by holding a special Mother’s Day Food Drive to benefit families in our community. Non-perishable food items can be dropped off at the church all week and will be delivered to the food pantry on Sunday, May 10. Shopping for special treats to donate is a great way to show your appreciation for the hard-working mothers of East Hampton.
For those interested in getting some culture for a great price, on Friday, May 8, at 7 p.m., Guild Hall is screening the National Theater Live presentation of “The Hard Problem.” It is a new play by Tom Stoppard and directed by Nicholas Hytner, depicting a young psychology researcher who is wrestling with sorrow and troubling questions at work. Tickets are only $18 or $16 for members.
If you are an early rising beach lover, you will want to head to Haven’s Beach in Sag Harbor. The Race for the Baykeeper will take place on Saturday, May 9, at 7:30 a.m. It’s a paddleboard race that navigates through Northwest Harbor with a beautiful view of Sag Harbor. All funds raised will benefit the Peconic Baykeeper’s clean water programs. Canoes, surf skis and kayaks are also welcome. Just don’t forget your lifejackets.
On Saturday, May 9, from 9 a.m. to noon, you and your furry friends can join ARF for a Doggie Social & Dog Walk in Montauk at the Second House Museum in Montauk (on the corner of Montauk Highway and Second House Road). Animals and animals lovers alike get together and commune in the fresh spring air.
If you are looking for ways to improve your diet, head to the Montauk Library on Saturday, May 9, at 2 p.m. Author and Montauk resident Stephanie Sacks will be presenting, “What the Fork Are You Eating?” revealing what hides inside our food, and suggesting ways to improve your diet and better your overall health.