Happy birthday to Tim Hoey, my patient, talented and loving, not-to-mention handsome, husband. On Friday, October 18, Tim will celebrate his 45th birthday. Come to think of it, I’m not so sure how happy he is going to be with me sharing his age in such a public forum.Last week I asked him if he wanted to have a birthday party and to my surprise, was met with the angst and frustration of someone approaching 15, not 45. He said he didn’t want to have a party, didn’t want to discuss his birthday and asked me to drop it before storming out the back door to walk the dog.
So, instead of bothering him about it I let it be and dropped the matter for the day.
Some days later, I asked him if this was finally the birthday where he was starting to feel uncomfortable about his age. He said it was, stating that he is starting to feel like an “old man.” I laughed at him, which maybe wasn’t the best move, and pointed out that he was wearing skinny jeans, Converse, a Mastodon T-shirt and a hoodie while playing a game on his phone. He snapped out of it a little while later and realized he was overreacting; that a number doesn’t define you as much as your actions and outlook do. He agreed to a small southern-food themed birthday party and added that he wanted an ice cream cake, specifically a Carvel Fudgie The Whale or Halloween cake. Even if he technically is middle-aged now, I don’t think he is going to be an old man anytime soon.
Local artist and “Bad Boy” author Eric Fischl will be the next speaker at Stony Brook Southampton’s free Writers Speak Wednesdays series on October 23, at 7 p.m. in the Radio Lounge in Chancellors Hall on the campus of Stony Brook Southampton. For more information, call (631) 632-5033.
The folks over at La Parmigiana restaurant on Hill Street will donate the proceeds from lunch and dinner sales on Monday, October 21, to the two young children of the late Keith Sea Greene. At lunchtime, the normal deli and pizza items will be available. Starting at 5:30 p.m., a $29.95 4-course prix fixe dinner will be available for sit-down or take-out. Pizza will be available as well.
The Press News Group is currently seeking nominees for its annual Community First Awards. The winner will receive a profile in our Hamptons Holiday supplement as well as a donation to a charity near and dear to their heart. Do you have a relative, a friend or a co-worker who is having an impact in our community? Tell us about their actions to benefit the lives of others and the local community.
To submit a nominee, write a brief, compelling story about the individual, what distinguishes them from others, and highlight how the nominee’s actions benefit the lives of others. All submissions may be sent to Assistant Editor Kim Covell, at firstname.lastname@example.org through October 25.
Russian-born pianist Igor Lovchinsky will perform a recital of works by Bach/Busoni, Kapustin and Liszt, at the Rogers Memorial Library on Sunday, October 20, at 3 p.m.
The chess documentary “Brooklyn Castle” will be screened on Monday, October 21, at 3 p.m.
Southampton School District will host a Merger Advisory Vote Community Listening Tour Meeting before the October 29 vote, on Wednesday, October 23, at 7 p.m.
The library and the Southampton Historical Museum will offer a presentation about Goody Garlick by Hugh King, director of Home Sweet Home in East Hampton, and his wife, Loretta Orion, Ph.D., the author of “Just Suspicious: The Story of the Goody Garlick Witchcraft Case” on Thursday, October 24, at 11 a.m.
The library and the League of Women Voters of The Hamptons will hold a Candidates Debate on Thursday, October 24, at 6:30 p.m. Questions for the candidates may be submitted at the door.
A haiku writing workshop will take place on Saturday, October 26, at 10:30 a.m. Walter E. Harris III will discuss haiku and there will be time to write. There is a $10 fee for this class.
To register for any program, contact (631) 283-0774, ext. 523, or visit www.myrml.org.